Heal the Divide

The times are changing.  It's time to adapt. People who know me may have noticed that I've changed my online behavior  in the last few years. I stopped posting my political opinions online. I think many of you have done the same. It is important to continue holding open discussions, but I no longer think that social media is the right place to do it. Research  seems to support this idea too. So, how then, do we engage in productive conversations across the political divide that connect us, rather than increasing the polarization problem? If you want to be part of the solution to this problem, read on... The secret seems to be, in making connections to real live humans that we come in contact with!  Family, Students, Neighbors, Acquaintances, Community Members (Real people, in the flesh, not anonymous social media contacts.) So how do we do that, without starting an ugly scene? Just a few tips to relate to others who think differently: Explain that your point is to discuss, not

  I am not the person you would expect to create a blog about healing division in our world.  For much of my life I actually avoided confrontation. I wanted people to like me, and at times I agreed with them, smiled, and pretended everything was good; I did not understand that authentic, caring, honest truth smacks down confrontational avoidance time after time.  I have a feeling that I am not alone in struggling to deal effectively with division. I think a few people do a great job of reaching out across differences of opinion, but most, I think, would rather not.  With polarization high in this world, and struggles rising, now is the time to connect with others who think differently than ourselves.  Here is what I am doing to learn to hear voices speaking different truths than my own:  I listen to podcasts from left, center, and right to understand all perspectives.  I use tools from The Polarization Lab  to reflect on my own online behavior. I recently video conferenced with a polit